Tag: coaching women in transition

Life Coaches Do Not Heal Mental Health

If you are looking for a life coach to help you recover from abuse, I want to warn you that life coaches are not licensed to complete mental health work. We do not dig in and help people heal from trauma! That is therapy, and we leave that to doctors and mental health workers.

In the recovery process, you may feel stuck in place. You may feel unable to move forward. You may have lost your footing in an abusive situation and perhaps you are lacking self-confidence, which may hold you back from reaching your goals.

This is the role of a life coach, to help you unlock what you already possess – the ability to step out and boldly get where you want to go in life. When you draw from yourself, through the guiding intuition-based questions of a life coach, your growth sticks!

A life coach does not give you personal advice. He or she will only do so momentarily and when given permission. We, life coaches, are not healers or mental health workers. We help you to use the tools that you already possess from within.

A life coach listens well and asks insightful questions which helps you unlock the door that you may feel is closed. This helps you to cross the threshold and enter the world with hope and clarity and with the ability to not only see where you want to be in life but to get there!

Be careful when hiring a life coach that has no training. Certifications do not make a life coach, however, the process trains the coach on what they should and should not get into in their practice, and to leave deep-rooted internal work healing to mental health professionals.

Thank you, and let me know if you have any questions!

The Ideal Client

Is there such a thing as an ideal client?

I would love to help each woman who does not recognize her personal ability to change and grow. It is ingrained in me to say, “You are worth every moment that you put into your life, and you can do whatever you put your mind to doing!”

Honestly, not everyone is an ideal client, and I am in business to work with women that are committed to sculpting their life into a masterpiece composed from their dreams.

Who is the ideal client?

They believe and practice honesty.

They are fun and can laugh at life itself, their own mistakes, as well as the mistakes of others.

They are open-minded to change and to new ideas.

They know there are no true failures. They know that the only way to fail is to quit.

They have forward thinking. They think about “the now” and “the future,” and they do not dwell in the past, nor do they blame their current choices on the past.

They are responsible. They know that their choices bring action and results.

They love to learn and grow. They perceive a challenge as a growth spurt.

They know that life consists of choices made, including not making a choice.

They are respectful of others.

They are committed to their own life.

They do not make excuses, instead, they do what it takes to move forward and take responsibility.

My ideal client is ready to put time, effort, and money into her future. She knows that her personal investment will have perfect returns because she owns it!

“Self growth is tender; it’s holy ground. There’s no higher investment.” – Steven Covey

Daily Goal Setting

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Daily goal setting does not need to be complicated.

Ask yourself, “What are three things that I must complete today that I cannot/must not push off to tomorrow?”

Applying too much pressure to yourself – by giving yourself more than three important priority tasks to complete in one day – can result in a plan that is too difficult to accomplish.

When setting daily goals:

  • be specific (A vague goal is seldom achievable!)
  • leave room for the unplanned (Interruptions and day to day life always happen!)
  • leave time for yourself (reading, exercising, hobbies, quiet time, etc.)
  • break large goals down into smaller steps that can be accomplished in one day

Breaking your tasks down to a 3-item priority list sets you up for achievement! Today, you did it! Tomorrow, you wake up with a fresh slate, and you are free to set new goals! In fact, I recommend setting your three goals the day before. You’ll set your goals while they are hot on your mind, and you’ll avoid waking up wondering, “What do I need to do today?”

Make at least one of your daily goals a small (or large step) that helps you reach a much bigger long-term goal. Remember – it is better to take one tiny step towards success, than it is to do nothing at all. Small steps add up.

Decide what you want, decide what you are willing to exchange for it. Establish your priorities and go to work. – H.L.Hunt