We go through life in stages, it simply does not remain the same through the years. We experience transitions in relationships, children, work, and physical changes.
Can we just put the brakes on? No, but it might feel good for a short while. So, our thoughts through these twists and turns commonly are:
- What’s next in my life?
- My energy is drained, each and every day!
- How do I move to the next chapter?
- What more can I possibly do?
- I feel overwhelmed, out of balance!
- Something seems missing.
- Am I on the right path?
- Where is God in this?
- I see no connection with my future.
The number one thing that helps in these situations is to realize you are not alone. You may feel singled out, but you never are.
Try breaking your situation down into small manageable pieces, and give yourself permission to think about your own welfare. Women are natural care givers, the care giver must be mindful of her own mental and physical needs!
- What’s next in life? (What do you want to do? What excites you the most? What gives you the most energy?)
- My energy is drained, each and every day! (What drains your energy the most? How can you turn that around?)
- I see no connection with my future. (What goals do you have? Which direction do you want to go? What small steps can you take to begin – or continue – your walk towards your future?)
- Where is God in this? (Pray, even if you feel God is not there — these are the times for patience as he never stops molding the plans that he has for you. Meditate on scripture. Apply scripture to your life.)
A friend that listens, one that looks after your own welfare, is also key to surviving transitions in life. Seek out groups or activities where you can meet other women that are in comparable life cycles, or possibly mentors that you can follow or consult with that have been in similar shoes as yours. If your circle of friends do not meet your needs, branch out. Find that harmony.
Start a new interest — something that builds your inner-strength, like a class or physical exercise. This boosts your mental and physical well-being, and both work in unison.
I hope you found this article helpful.
I look forward to your comments, and if you need a listener, I would love to hear from you.