The nerd in me loves to consider personality types. I especially love the topic of introverts and extroverts. The most important thing that I have learned when it comes to personality is you cannot change the spots on a leopard. Instead, I now see that we need to understand our differences and embrace them.
Do you know which type you are, an introvert or an extrovert? I am an introvert.
I am not writing this article to pinpoint every personality plus or minus about introverts, just those that are prominent, such as:
Introverts Dislike Small Talk
I used to beat myself up when I felt tired after experiencing a period of lengthy small talk, or after a long social gathering. I didn’t understand that this is the introvert fabric that I am made of! So, I put the self-inflicting ball bat away and I began nurturing who I am.
Introvert Career or Business Paths
Introverts typically love to write and are interested in psychology, especially when it includes self-discovery or introspect. Other independent areas of interest to introverts often include accounting, engineering, computer programming, and counseling. All of these areas either currently interest me, or have been a past career except for engineering and counseling (I chose the role of life coach rather than counseling). Knowing that my interests are common to introversion helped me remove my seeking to be normal out of the equation. I am a normal introvert.
Introverts Dislike Meeting Strangers
Experts also say that introverts feel uncomfortable meeting strangers. This is the only trait I personally disagree with because I love – adore – meeting strangers.
Introverts and Extroverts Love People
Introverts are not shy. They do not dislike people. They are great counselors and coaches because these careers and businesses require excellent listening skills.
Extroverts love people. Introverts love people as well, but extroverts are energized by socializing with people. Extroverts are great in sales, marketing, human resources, pretty much any job where they can stand on their feet and think, literally and verbally, all at the same time.
Introvert and Extrovert Listening Skills
An introvert might need to listen, step back, think about situations or ideas, and then return to them later. An extrovert is eager, ready to make on-the-spot decisions, give their two cents with little or no thinking time required. This reminds me of what the diet experts say, “Everything is okay in moderation.” Everything, such as introversion or extroversion (in moderation) is okay!
Benefits of Being Aware of Personality Types
Pinning personality stereotypes on people is not fair, nor is it smart. But awareness of what our differences are, and how we’re uniquely made, can be uplifting and beneficial to each and every one of us. We learn:
- To accept other personality types. It teaches us to be patient.
- To talk less, and listen, or talk more and practice listening at the same time.
- To walk closer to the middle of life’s road rather than in the safety or emergency breakdown lanes.
- To make wise decisions. To listen, study (to think first), and then make decisions!
How has your life benefitted from knowing or understanding the personalities of others? Has your personality type (introvert or extrovert) affected how you manage your career, business, or life itself?